Mom, Birthday, Mother’s Day & Love

May 9, 2011

I was going to post this yesterday on Mother’s day but I didn’t. Here’s a story about my car accident, mom’s birthday, and love.

A few weeks ago I was invited to my adopted mother’s birthday dinner celebration at a local semi-fancy restaurant. I drove up around 4:25 pm. I was 5 minutes early. The parking lot was empty and I pulled into the closest spot to the fenced in mini-outside dining area. I drive a huge car. It’s an old Lincoln Towncar. I’ve had it for over 3 years now and I still have trouble judging space. As I pulled in I heard a bang so I backed up and parked farther away from the fence surrounded by cement planters with plants and flowers in them.

I got out of my car mostly concerned if there was any damage to the fence. The fence looked ok but the planters were moved and there was a little red paint from my car on the cement. I moved the planter back in place and didn’t worry about it. I met up with my great aunt and uncle then my mom and we were at and had to wait for my mom’s friend and her mother who are always late.

Just as I settled down at the table the woman who greeted us came to the table and asked if I hit the fence outside. I admitted to it. Even if I didn’t have a conscience, I couldn’t deny it with the red paint on the concrete planter. I followed the woman (who turned out to be the owner) outside to the “scene” of the crime. She was quite upset as she pointed out the black painted metal fence was bent slightly and broken at the bottom where it meets the corner. I was full of guilt and apologized way too much. She was more upset about telling her husband (the co-owner) because there was an accident that broke another part of the fence recently. I told her I’d take care of it and give her my information. I went back to my seat and tried to get my mind off it since it’s my mom’s birthday and all.

Everyone eventually showed up and we ordered our food and I tried to have a good time. I got up and went outside to have a cigarette. I passed the owner and she said she talked to her husband and he was calm about it. He would be coming in soon and we’d work it out. Cool. I had my smoke and re-examined the damage. It looked fixable. Even though I was a little relieved I was broke and didn’t need this.

I went back to dinner and enjoyed the meal and the people. My aunt was pretty funny and so was my mom’s friend. We joked, small talked and some serious conversation. After the meal my uncle joined me for a smoke and on the way out the female owner stopped me and said her husband was at the bar.

I went over to him and introduced myself. He wasn’t the friendliest of people but he was polite and trying not to be angry with me. I apologized and told him that I’ll pay for it etc. I gave him my phone number. He told me how much it would be to replace the fence piece. $240. Yikes. He said the other one was destroyed and that was the quote he got for that one. I told him I’d be in touch and joined my uncle for a smoke.

My uncle was examining the fence when I arrived and lit up. He didn’t think it looked that bad and he makes a living fixing things. I told him how much it was to replace the fence and he said that was crazy. He could fix it close to nothing and they didn’t need to replace the fence. Then he went on to say how stupid it is to have an eating area right outside the front door and in the parking lot. I was thinking that the fact that it was hit twice in a month might be saying something. We went back in and my guilty feelings came back.

We left and luckily my mom had a great time and that’s all that mattered. I made the mistake of telling her how much it was to fix it. The next day she sent the restaurant a check for $240. She told me that she did it because she likes to eat there and I can work it off around her house. Weird. Most of my life my mom has no been the one to bail me out unless she really sees me working. We have a deal that I never ask to borrow and she never offers to lend. She’s been bending that rule lately but I never ask. She has made the effort to understand what I am going through and where I’m at and she’s been a big help. I don’t take her for granted but appreciate the help. God bless mom

My Mom is also a talented wriiter and published author.

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Hey Richie. It’s Your Birthday.

May 1, 2011

Happy birthday to me. Happy birthday to me. Happy birthday dear unemployed, middle aged, overweight yet still good looking Rich Hillen Jr. Happy birthday to me.

I love my birthday. I always have as far back as I can remember. I used to like it for the gifts and the attention. Ha. I still like it for the gifts and attention but they fade as I get older. Family stops sending those funny cards with the checks or cash. Friends don’t give friends gifts for birthdays. Male friends don’t. It’s part of the bro code. Parties are generally saved for milestone birthdays: 21, 25, 30, 40, 50 etc.

I believe that everyone should love their birthday not just me. It’s the one holiday that transcends religious beliefs, country patriotism and corporate created holidays. It’s a day in the year that everyone of every race, religion, location etc. has in common the celebration of our birth. I know that I am stating the obvious but sometimes it needs to be said.

Despite my reclusiveness the past few years I still want to throw a birthday party every year. I threw one last year and I heard a friend say that he’s not going because I throw one every year. So does he on Halloween. Who cares? My point of having one last year was to celebrate my friendships and give back. I paid for the food and drinks so it wasn’t about gifts or even attention. Some people missed the point and some got it and some just wanted to see me on my birthday. I was surprised on both ends: who showed up and who didn’t.

I wanted to throw a birthday party this year since I have a whole house of my own (I rent with a room mate) but I have a lot less money this year and I have lost most social contacts. I doubt many people would show. Well, not as many people would show as they would of when I was more social.

I know I bash Facebook a lot but like MySpace and most social networks we get reminders of peoples birthdays and we can post a simple “happy birthday” easily and give and receive a little joy almost every day. Some could see it as a cop out and we should remember our friends birthdays and on some level it is but the other side is that in our fast paced lives (not mine) it is hard to keep track of everyone’s birthday. It also helps with new friend learning their birthdays.

If you share this special day, May 1st, as your birthday also then happy birthday to you. If you are reading this on your birthday then happy birthday. Do something special for yourself on your birthday.

FAMOUS PEOPLE BORN ON MAY  1ST

Glenn Ford

Debi Diamond

Antonio Banderas

Kate Smith

Julie Benz

Rita Coolidge

Jack Paar

Judy Collins

Ray Parker Jr

Terry Southern

Calamity Jane

Tim McGraw


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