Fed Up With Facebook? Me Too. Novaboon.com is where its at

November 11, 2010

Ok. I am totally fed up with facebook.com. I joined reluctantly years ago because my friends were all going over there and abandoned My Space. I loved MySpace as it was a few years ago. Easy to use. Band friendly. Although they had some restrictions on photo content and removed some photos without explanation it I was fairly ok with it. I also loved the blog features and had a following reading my blogs.

 

Facebook became addicting. All of my friends were on there and some family too. I felt a little restricted at first but eventually said fuck it and posted whatever. For a time I wanted to just have people I knew as friends but when I published my book and started my own blog site I wanted to promote my stuff and began adding friends like ad. This is when he problems started.

 

Facebook has since been on me about adding too many friends saying that I was a spammer and they want it to be a friends and family site. What if I want to make new friends? I did make new friends across the globe. I go on and off friend adding probation. Then I was on messaging probation for sending our my links to my blog and my books. I get messages all of the time from people promoting things. Then the photo removals started happening. I never could figure out what photo and they do not tell you.

 

This is the latest letter I received:

 

Hello,

 

You uploaded a profile picture that violates our Terms of Use, and this picture has been removed. Facebook does not allow photos that attack an individual or group, or that contain nudity, drug use, violence, or other violations of the Terms of Use. These policies are designed to ensure Facebook remains a safe, secure and trusted environment for all users, including the many children who use the site.

 

If you have any questions or concerns, you can visit our FAQ page at http://www.facebook.com/help/?topic=wphotos.

 

The Facebook Team

 

Ok great. I have hundreds of pics and yes I know I have some borderline photos bit no sexually graphic or violent or racist pics like they forbid. I tried to find out more with the link above and it says nothing. A lot of words but no explanations.

 

Here’s the help page info:

 

Help Center

 

Warning – Photos

 

What kinds of photos does Facebook remove?

Photos are removed if they contain nudity, drug use or other obscene c…

Photos are removed if they contain nudity, drug use or other obscene content. If the photo attacks another individual or group, it will be removed as well.

 

Can I see the removed content?

Unfortunately, for technical and security reasons, users cannot view t…

Unfortunately, for technical and security reasons, users cannot view the removed content.

 

Please go through your profile and make sure to take down any other offensive or objectionable material that violates our Terms of Use. For more information on conduct prohibited by Facebook, please read our ‘terms’ (linked to at the bottom of any page).

 

Does Facebook remove everything that gets reported?

Facebook reviews every report we receive to determine whether or not t…

Facebook reviews every report we receive to determine whether or not the content violates our Terms of Use. Any content that is considered obscene, violent, malicious or otherwise offensive will be removed. If you received a warning about an item that was taken down, then we have established that it violated these terms.

 

Was that helpful? No. This is has been an issue for over 6 months now. So I talked to my friend, now housemate, about starting a social network of our own. After business plan revisions, programming, researching and a lot of hard work, Seth Rosen and I launched NovaBoon – World’s Best Unrestricted Social Network on November 1st 2010 We waited a few days to invite people and we have been growing steadily since last Friday. http://novaboon.com

 

Our motto is “Escape from the social networking jail with Novaboon.”

 

We are looking for people fed up with the restrictions and harassments of the other sites and want a new place to do anything they want basically within legal limits. All are welcome. It might be too unrestricted for some and that’s fine. Were not trying to compete with facebook. We just want a place for people that are more expressive and want more freedom to go to.

 

To quote my partner, Seth Rosen “NovaBoon.com a place for facebook parolees and MySpace refugees.

 

Join now if you are even slightly fed up and not offended easily.

 

http://novaboon.com

 


Indifference is the Word of the Day

July 18, 2010

Mediocrity is the worst. No. Indifference is the worst. I sit here in my usual spot doing my usual things feeling indifferent. I don’t care today. I sit and I wait for inspiration. Not sad. Not happy. Not angry. Not joyful. Not feelings one way or the other. I just do my thing. I go through the motions and wait. Wait for a feeling. For something.

The things that would usual aggravate me or excite me aren’t having an affect on my today. Luckily I am in the habit of doing things. Positive and negative things. Productive and nonproductive.

I write. I wait. I create I wait. I waste time on the internet. I wait. I talk to you. I wait. I have faith it will come. I just don’t know when.

I try and seize the day and not let the day seize me. It doesn’t. I’m indifferent today. I feel mediocre. It’s worse than depression or joy. At least then I have passion.

“Oh dear passion please come to me.” I say.

Then I don’t care again.

I don’t care today. Just for today.


This is the Way I Feel Right Now

July 12, 2010

I made this the other day but it best illustrates how I feel right now. Not bad or good. I just don’t feel like writing about it.


Happy, Joyous and Free . . . Weeeeeee!

July 8, 2010

“I want what all those happy joyous & free mother fuckers have..” she wrote in a message to me.

I got news for you- nobody is happy, joyous and free all of the time. It comes in waves. We are all human, ya know. We all have our crosses to bear. We all have our fears, insecurities, failings, and crashes. Some more than others but none of us would be human if we didn’t.

I’ve been attending these meetings for over 18 years and I’ve heard a lot of great things but most of the people are full of shit. They talk it and don’t walk it. That’s human too. I don’t hold it against them. Nobody is happy, joyous and free 24 hours a day. No one. Did I say no one? No one.

There was a line from Jason Lee’s character in Vanilla Sky “the sweet wouldn’t be as sweet without the sour”. If I didn’t have the sour I wouldn’t appreciate the sweet. It doesn’t have to be all bad. I don’t have to focus on the bad but I do have to go through the emotions whether I want to or not. Otherwise I’m repressing it and telling myself and others a huge lie. “I’m ok”. No I’m not. I am this moment but not all of the time. It’s ok to not be ok sometimes. It doesn’t mean that I am not spiritual enough. It doesn’t mean that I’m not working the 12 steps hard enough. It just means that I am human and life is happening and I have to face it instead of running from it like I have in the past.

When my friend died of Aids in 1997 I sat with his mother at the funeral. She said that everyone is telling her “everything is going to be ok”. She said, “it’s not going to be ok.” I agreed with her and said, “You’re right. It’s not going to be ok.” It was probably the most honesty I’ve ever given and she’s ever received. It’s better than lying to her. She seemed to feel more comfort knowing that someone recognized her right to feel that way than hearing  “It’ll be ok”.

There’s this one guy that says “I’m happy, joyous and free today because I choose to be” at every meeting he goes to. Yet he seems pretty miserable when I’ve tried talking to him after the meeting. Abraham Lincoln said, “you are as happy as you make your mind up to be”. I get the general attitude there but it’s not that easy all of the time. Every morning I wake up and pray and ask God to guide me through my day. Some days I get aggravated or depressed almost immediately after. That’s life. I can choose to stay there or find a way out. On the average I do a little of both on a given bad day.

I don’t trust people that act happy every time I see them and always share and talk about positive things. I don’t like people that tell me how great they are doing when they’re really not. I love to hear people share from their heart about themselves and their lives whether it’s good, bad or average and what they are doing about it. What’s really going on?

I hear a lot of people say, “I’m livin’ the dream” in some circles and it seems so fake like a Stewart Smiley affirmation. I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and gosh darn it, people like me. Maybe they are “livin’ the dream” but it just seems so fake. This is just my personal opinion. If it works for them then more power to them. I understand the general sentiment in the term. In a sense I am living the dream too. I understand the point they are making which is I never dreamed I could live with my addictions in some sort of control. I never dreamed I would have and utilize a higher power that helps me if I ask. In that sense I am living the dream. It’s just when that’s your rehearsed answer to the question “How are you?” it bothers me. Then again, any rehearsed answer to a greeting can bother me. I like honesty. Although I’m not always the most honest person myself, I aim to be.

It upsets me sometimes when people fool other people into thinking that his or her life is happy, joyous and free at all times. It gives people a false hope of something they may never live up to. I admit that I am happy joyous and free over all in the general sense. I am grateful. I am also sometimes sad, angry, lonely, depressed, and anxious. I guess what I’m saying here is that it’s ok for me or you or him or her to feel that way. You have the right to feel. You own your emotions. Yes. There are ways of pulling out of it but most of the time I believe that a person has to feel the emotions whether they are good or bad and deal with them. Don’t dwell on them. Deal with them like a human being. Talk to people about it. Most of the time I tell someone I’m close to how I feel they understand. They’ve felt that way too whether they are an alcoholic or bipolar or not. The oddest people I’ve met in my life are the ones that seem perfect. They seem happy all of the time. I’ve learned through getting to know a lot of people like this that they are just as human as the rest of us. They have defects of character and fears just like the rest of the human race. They just hide it better.

Enough of my rant. I just hate when people live a lie. I’ve put many a person on a pedestal through the years and every one of them has fallen. Why? They are human. Super men are in comic books and movies. Now I know that it’s ok to be human. It’s not ok to dwell in any emotion. I live one day at a time and enjoy every moment I can. Some bad moments and some good moments. I hope you do too.


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